In a two-week diary study of 171 young women, a longer night's sleep went with more desire the next day. Evidence: decent It was a pilot study, and it had no men in it. For you, it's a reasonable bet, not a finding. Evidence: worth trying
It's also the cheapest thing in this guide to test. If the phone is what keeps you up, start with Phone out of the bedroom.
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Don't wait to feel like it
If you both want time together and you're open but not in the mood yet, that needn't be a no. Start slow and see if the wanting follows. If it doesn't, stop.
no timeEvidence: worth trying
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Generous, not dutiful
When your partner wants closeness and you're lukewarm but open to it, you can say yes to what you're glad to give. If you're not open to it, say no. Both answers are fine.
no timeEvidence: decent
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New erection trouble, sudden low desire, or pain? See a doctor
Book a doctor if erections have become a new problem, desire dropped away suddenly, or sex hurts. Say it plainly, the way you'd describe a bad knee.
10 minEvidence: solid