"Porn rewires your brain" is everywhere. The evidence behind it is thin, and the field is still arguing. In one EEG study of 122 people, which reads the brain's electrical activity through the scalp, problem users with high desire reacted less to sexual images, not more, as the rewiring story would expect. Evidence: worth trying That's one study, and it's disputed.
What holds up better: in a review of the studies, feeling hooked on porn went with a clash between what people do and what they believe, not only with how much they watch. Evidence: decent
So the useful question isn't what it's doing to your brain. It's whether it fits your values, and whether it's taking something from your evenings or from your partner. If it is, that's reason enough to change it. No brain science needed.
Same theme: Desire
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Don't wait to feel like it
If you both want time together and you're open but not in the mood yet, that needn't be a no. Start slow and see if the wanting follows. If it doesn't, stop.
no timeEvidence: worth trying
Desire
Generous, not dutiful
When your partner wants closeness and you're lukewarm but open to it, you can say yes to what you're glad to give. If you're not open to it, say no. Both answers are fine.
no timeEvidence: decent
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New erection trouble, sudden low desire, or pain? See a doctor
Book a doctor if erections have become a new problem, desire dropped away suddenly, or sex hurts. Say it plainly, the way you'd describe a bad knee.
10 minEvidence: solid