In a study of 133 college couples, a bigger gap in how much each partner wanted sex went with lower satisfaction: sexual satisfaction for the women, satisfaction with the relationship for the men. Evidence: decent They were young couples, not long-married ones, so take it as a hint about your situation, not a measurement of it.
Say it once. Not to settle who's right. Just so neither of you is left guessing what the silence means.
It goes both ways. Sometimes you're the one who wants it less, and that's worth saying too.
Same theme: Desire
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Don't wait to feel like it
If you both want time together and you're open but not in the mood yet, that needn't be a no. Start slow and see if the wanting follows. If it doesn't, stop.
no timeEvidence: worth trying
Desire
Generous, not dutiful
When your partner wants closeness and you're lukewarm but open to it, you can say yes to what you're glad to give. If you're not open to it, say no. Both answers are fine.
no timeEvidence: decent
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New erection trouble, sudden low desire, or pain? See a doctor
Book a doctor if erections have become a new problem, desire dropped away suddenly, or sex hurts. Say it plainly, the way you'd describe a bad knee.
10 minEvidence: solid