In a two-week diary study, couples fought more after a bad night's sleep. In the lab, the tired partner was worse at reading what the other one felt, and the argument was less likely to get anywhere. Evidence: decent
You already know this from every 11pm fight you've had. The hack is saying the sentence out loud instead of having the fight anyway.
Same theme: When it turns into a fight
When it turns into a fight
Argue their side for a minute
When someone's got you angry, spend one minute making their case as if you meant it.
1 minEvidence: decent
When it turns into a fight
Ask what they saw, not what they meant
When you hear "you always do this" or "your work's been sloppy", ask for the last time it happened and what they saw. Then answer that, not the "always".
no timeEvidence: worth trying
When it turns into a fight
Book the money talk, don't spring it
Don't raise money the moment a bill lands or a purchase shows up. Say "Can we go through money on Sunday, half an hour?" Then keep to it.
30 minEvidence: worth trying