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Happiness · Holding a good moment

End it on the high note

Put the best bit last. The film after the chores, the walk after dinner, the warm line at the end of a hard talk. Not in the middle.

no timeEvidence: worth trying

Your memory of an evening isn't a recording. It's a score, built from two points: the strongest moment and the last one. How long the thing went on barely counts.

The clean demonstration used pain. 287 patients rated a colonoscopy or kidney-stone treatment minute by minute, then rated the whole thing afterwards. Duration and remembered pain were almost unrelated, a correlation near zero. The remembered score sat close to the average of the worst minute and the final minute. Evidence: solid

Turning that round, planning a good ending on purpose, is the obvious move, and nobody has trialled it. Evidence: worth trying It costs nothing. Run the order of the evening so the thing you'd both pick comes last. Same for a trip. Same for a hard conversation: don't finish on the logistics.

Source: Redelmeier and Kahneman, 1996, Pain (link)

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