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Drinking more than you meant to

The third beer that was meant to be one. The flat Sunday. The drink at six to stop thinking about work.

7 min read · 6 hacks

In this guide
  1. Before the first one
  2. While it's in your hand
  3. The night after
  4. An honest look

One beer on a Tuesday turns into three. Saturday was good and Sunday is flat. The first drink at six is the quickest way you know to stop thinking about work. None of this is a verdict on you. It's the gap between what you meant and what you did, and what it costs you the next day.

Alcohol puts you to sleep faster, then breaks up the second half of the night. Evidence: solid In 4,098 Finnish employees wearing heart monitors, evening drinking kept heart rate higher in the first hours of sleep and cut how well the body recovered, and the more they drank, the bigger the effect. Evidence: decent Some people also wake up anxious after a night out. In a small study of 97 social drinkers, that next-day anxiety rose in very shy people and not in the rest. Evidence: worth trying Real for some, not a rule.

You'll hear that a glass of red a day is good for your heart. That's oversold. It rests on the wider idea that moderate drinkers live longer. A 2023 review of 107 studies and 4.8 million people found that once the studies' known biases were adjusted for, low and moderate drinkers didn't live longer than non-drinkers. Evidence: solid The older result came partly from "non-drinker" groups that included former drinkers, who tend to be less healthy. Evidence: solid Alcohol is also classed as a known cause of cancer, and in 2023 the WHO said no safe level has been established. Evidence: solid If you drink, it's for the taste or the company. Not your heart.

Before the first one

Decide before you're standing at the fridge. A month off went with less drinking later in people who chose it. It hasn't been shown to work for everyone. Evidence: decent

  • Stress and nerves

    Decide the drink before you get home

    Before you leave work, write one if-then line for the evening. If I want a second beer, I drink a glass of water first, then decide.

    2 minEvidence: worth trying

  • Stress and nerves

    Pick the drink-free days before the week starts

    On Sunday, choose the days this week you won't drink and put them in the calendar. Then Wednesday at six isn't a decision.

    2 minEvidence: worth trying

While it's in your hand

Two small brakes. Neither is a rule, and neither is heavily tested.

  • Stress and nerves

    Count it as you pour it

    Each time you open or pour a drink, add a line to a note on your phone with the time. Read the note the next morning.

    no timeEvidence: worth trying

  • Stress and nerves

    Water between drinks

    After each drink, have a glass of water before the next one. If you're out, order them together.

    no timeEvidence: worth trying

The night after

This is where the cost shows up.

  • Sleep

    Alcohol is not a sleep aid

    If you drink, stop three hours before bed. On a bad-sleep week, none.

    no timeEvidence: solid

An honest look

If you're not sure whether it's a lot, there's a short check doctors use. It's a prompt, not a verdict.

If you drink heavily every day, don't stop suddenly. Talk to a doctor first. Withdrawal, the body's reaction when alcohol it's used to is taken away, can cause seizures. Evidence: solid If you get shaky or sweaty when you go without a drink, that's the sign to talk to a doctor before cutting down.

If the honest reason you drink is to switch off a low mood, that's a conversation with a doctor, not a hack.

  • Stress and nerves

    Take the three-question check

    Search for AUDIT-C and answer the three questions for an ordinary week, not your best one. Or ask your doctor to go through it with you.

    2 minEvidence: solid

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